Why psychotherapy and counselling?
You don't have to be anxious, depressed or experiencing a life crisis to benefit from psychotherapy. You may simply want to share difficult feelings. You might be experiencing:
What can psychotherapy or counselling offer that family and friends can't?
Family and friends may help but because we are emotionally involved with them we often edit what we share. We might want to protect them from our distress or we might perceive them as the source of that distress. Unless your friends and family are trained listeners, they may interrupt with similar problems of their own or offer advice influenced by their own experience, not yours.
As a psychotherapist, I provide a safe, non-judgmental, confidential space. As someone who is empathic but not emotionally involved in your issues, I can provide an objective listening ear. I am trained to listen and be fully present. I don't advise you but I support your decision-making process. If you're feeling powerless and struggling to make simple decisions, I help you to regain a sense of personal power.
Just hearing yourself express your thoughts out loud can help to bring clarity to an issue. Having that material gently reflected back can help you identify potential distortions in your thinking as well as recurring patterns and themes.
How do you work?
My training as a transpersonal integrative psychotherapist allows me to use tools and practices from a variety of theoretical models. One of these is the psychodynamic model which explores the influences of childhood and the birth family on the psyche and how those experiences manifest in the present. I work intuitively, guided by what you say and tuning into what you don’t say but might express non-verbally. I may use guided visualisation, meditation, drawing and dreams to help you uncover what motivates you. However, rest assured that you are in charge; we work at your pace.
By providing support and guidance on your therapeutic journey, I can help you as you explore what affects your peace of mind, alleviate your distress and move towards positive change and the realisation of your full potential.
"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I abide by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) Code of Professional Conduct
I am listed on Counselling Directory and also on both the UKCP's and the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy's Find A Therapist websites.
What type of therapy do I need?
If you’re confused by all the information out there and wondering whether you need DBT, EMDR, CBT, TA (or indeed any of the industry acronyms), just remember Dr. Irvin Yalom’s professional rosary: "it’s the relationship that heals". He believes the bond between therapist and client is key to the healing process. Feeling heard and understood is what stays with you. If you find a therapist you can connect with, in a convenient location, at a price you can afford, you have the essentials. If you're uncertain whether psychotherapy or counselling is right for you, you are welcome to call for a no obligation 15 minute chat so I can answer your questions and address any concerns.
What issues can psychotherapy and counselling help with?
I work with men, women and couples aged 16 or over whose issues have included:
This is not an exhaustive list.
It's important to note, there are no time limits in therapy. You can bring problems that are unfolding now or something you’ve suppressed for years that is demanding expression. As a bereavement counsellor, I worked with people whose loss was decades ago but they had not felt able to process their grief before. The important thing is not when something happened but how you feel about it now.
To come to couples counselling, you don't have to be in crisis. Couples may come to:
Where do you work?
I offer counselling and psychotherapy in Weybridge in Surrey, close to the Surrey towns of Byfleet, Cobham, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Hersham, Kingston, Leatherhead, Oxshott, Surbiton, Thames Ditton, Walton-on-Thames and Woking. I also work from The Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE) in Paddington, London W2.