Why psychotherapy and counselling?
You don't have to be anxious, depressed or experiencing a life crisis to benefit from psychotherapy, you may simply want to share difficult feelings. People enter therapy for a variety of reasons, including:
To come to couples counselling, you don't have to be in crisis. Couples may come to:
What can psychotherapy or counselling offer that family and friends can't?
Family and friends may help but because we are emotionally involved with them we often edit what we share and don't get to the root of what we are feeling. We might want to protect them from our distress or we might perceive them as the source of that distress. Alternatively, loved ones may try and downplay or even reject our feelings because our discomfort upsets them and they want 'everything to be OK'. Unless your friends and family are trained listeners, they may interrupt with similar problems of their own or offer advice influenced by their own experience, not yours.
As a psychotherapist, I provide a safe, non-judgmental, confidential space in which you can explore your feelings. As I am empathic, but not emotionally involved in your issues, I can provide an objective listening ear. I am trained to listen and be fully present. I use observation and gentle questioning to help you in your journey of discovery. While I don't advise you, I support your decision-making process by reflecting back what I hear, pointing out inconsistencies, confusion or contradictions. If you're feeling powerless and struggling to make simple decisions, this process can help you to regain a sense of personal power.
"When will you begin that long journey into yourself?" ~ Rumi
Just hearing yourself express your thoughts out loud can help to bring clarity to an issue. Having that material gently reflected back can help you identify potential distortions in your thinking as well as recurring patterns and themes. I will point out and challenge negative thinking by questioning its validity and perhaps offering a different perspective. I can help you link feelings back to the past to uncover origins that may have been hidden.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us." ~Marianne Williamson
If you're in a relationship that feels like a war zone and communication is limited to essentials or 'tit for tat' point scoring, I can help you communicate in a way that makes each person feel heard and seen within the relationship. You do not have to agree with each other to have a harmonious relationship but when each party feels heard and understood, defences begin to soften and real communication can take place.
"If you believe it will work out, you'll see opportunities. If you believe it won't, you will see obstacles." ~Wayne Dyer
How do you work?
My training as a transpersonal integrative psychotherapist allows me to use tools and practices from a variety of theoretical models. One of these is the psychodynamic model which explores the influences of childhood and the birth family on the psyche and how those experiences manifest in the present. I work intuitively, guided by what you say and tuning into what you don’t say but might express non-verbally. I may use guided visualisation, meditation, drawing and dreams to help you uncover what motivates you. However, rest assured that you are in charge; we work at your pace. I also offer various strategies for anxiety including breathwork, tapping (emotional freedom technique) and the principles of the law of attraction.
By providing support and guidance on your therapeutic journey, I can help you as you explore what affects your peace of mind, alleviate your distress and move towards positive change and the realisation of your full potential.
"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Where are your testimonials?
Psychotherapy and counselling is confidential. Your material is shared only with my supervisor/s as part of good clinical practice. I abide by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) code of professional conduct which states that the psychotherapist should not make unjustifiable statements relating to particular therapies or therapists or include testimonials from clients in any advertising material. To be confidential, testimonials must be anonymous and could therefore be interpreted as unjustifiable statements so I decided to remove them from my website.
I am listed on Counselling Directory and also on both the UKCP's and the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy's Find A Therapist websites.
What type of therapy do I need?
If you’re confused by all the information out there and wondering whether you need DBT, EMDR, CBT, TA (or indeed any of the industry acronyms), just remember Dr. Irvin Yalom’s professional rosary: "it’s the relationship that heals". He believes the bond between therapist and client is key to the healing process. Feeling heard and understood is what stays with you. If you find a therapist you can connect with, in a convenient location, at a price you can afford, you have the essentials. If you're uncertain whether psychotherapy or counselling is right for you, you are welcome to call for a no obligation 15 minute chat so I can answer your questions and address any concerns. For confidentiality reasons, I prefer to speak to the person intending to come to therapy, rather than a third party such as a partner or parent.
What issues can psychotherapy and counselling help with?
I provide counselling and psychotherapy from an office in Weybridge, close to Cobham, Walton on Thames and Byfleet. I work with couples and individuals aged 16 or over whose issues have included:
This is not an exhaustive list.
It's important to note, there are no time limits in therapy. You can bring problems that are unfolding now or something you’ve suppressed for years that is demanding expression. As a bereavement counsellor, I worked with people whose loss was decades ago but they had not felt able to process their grief before. The important thing is not when something happened but how you feel about it now.
"It's never too late to have a happy childhood." ~ Tom Robbins
Where do you work?
If you're looking for a psychotherapist in Surrey, I offer counselling and psychotherapy in Weybridge, close to Byfleet, Cobham, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Hersham, Kingston, Leatherhead, Oxshott, Surbiton, Thames Ditton, Walton-on-Thames and Woking. Occasionally I can offer appointments in Cobham. I also work from The Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE) in Paddington, London W2.
Please note, I do not offer a crisis service. I will respond to calls or emails during normal business hours. If you need urgent help, please contact your GP, the duty psychiatrist at your local A&E department or call the Samaritans’ free 24 hour helpline on 116 123.